Below is my reply.
'Non je ne regrette rien'
I have many regrets, many things I wanted to have done differently, many things I would like to change in my life and in myself.
But I am who I am and I try my best and that is all I can do. Being completely myself means to be far from perfect but to be good as I am, I believe.
The hardest part is letting go (Coldplay)...
I could feel it go down
Silver lining the clouds
Oh, and I,
I wish that I could work it out
And the hardest part
Was letting go not taking part
You really broke my heart
And I tried to sing
But I couldn't think of anything
And that was the hardest part
Everything I know is wrong
Everything I do it just comes undone
And everything is torn apart
And that's the hardest part
Acceptance is what is needed, acceptance of who I really am, of what I really want, to accept the circumstances, also when they are bad and difficult, and to accept others as they are.
And to work on changes for the better, never to give up.
'God give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.'
And also this one from Coldplay:
To do you wrong
That's what I came here to say
But if I was wrong
Then I'm sorry
I don't let it stand in our way
As my head just aches
When I think of
The things that I shouldn't have done
But, life is for living
We all know
And I don't wanna live it alone
Make pain a window
so you can look back
But shut airtight
So the smells, the sounds
The painfulness of pain
Is locked away.
Then you can begin to move forward
And if only, if only you want
Look back again,
I think it is possible to find protection against bitterness, there are different sorts of pain, loss and sadness. It can be cynical, frustrated and embittered or it can be without the loss of goodness, by accepting the pain which cannot be avoided, by choosing to carry it on your shoulders. Within suffering even a beauty can be seen.
And I like to add one more part of a song here (from Sting):
"I saw a friend of mine, he said:
You look different somehow
I said: Everybody's got to leave the darkness sometime"
I wasn't crying to Rolf, I just posted some "interesting news".
Do you really think I would be shocked by your threats?
Just like Hendrik and Catherina survived living without a Europe community I can do without IR just as well...
you should learn how to dissolve it, and make it disappear.